Re: "Sorry you're not the right fit" - After "all is fine" for 4 weeks

["Pro TechWriter" <pro -dot- techwriter -at- gmail -dot- com>]

You give me hope! Thanks for sharing this story. I especially liked the part
about "pulling 20 years of experience out of play." That struck a chord for
me.
PT

On Mon, Nov 24, 2008 at 9:27 AM, Sharon Burton <sharon -at- anthrobytes -dot- com>wrote:

> I worked at a place with a really bad fit. I spent 2.5 years trying to fit
> in because the work was interesting and I saw that I could do a lot of
> corporate good.
>
>  When I was told that I needed to stop mentioning previous projects I had
> been on that related to this one because it upset people in the room, I
> stopped talking about how I'd solved this issue before and maybe we could
> do
> the same here. Thus, pulling almost 20 years of experience out of play.
>
>  I spent 2.5 years trying hard to be a person who "fit" there. I was really
> miserable the entire time. It was as bad as being in my second marriage. I
> felt that who I was as a person was offensive and upsetting to everyone and
> just being in the room annoyed them. 10 hours a day. 5 days a week.
>
> Now I have a job I adore. I was so happy to get out of the bad fit place. I
> couldn't believe how well I was treated at the new job for the first 6
> months. Now I'm used to it but I still appreciate it!
>
> They did you a favor.
>
>
> sharon
>
> Sharon Burton
> 951-369-8590
>
>
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> Behalf Of Pinkham, Jim
> Sent: Monday, November 24, 2008 6:52 AM
> To: Yannia Vodrovich; techwr-l -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com
> Subject: RE: "Sorry you're not the right fit" - After "all is fine" for
> 4 weeks
>
>
> Yannia, I think both your response and the advice you're getting are on
> tack.
>
> There are companies that have a certain pathology that even the
> best-intentioned can unwittingly stumble into. Sounds like you found one
> and
> got a quick, merciful escape, without much damage done. Congratulations!
>
> Taking stock on what you could have done differently and seeing if you can
> learn from it is wise. I suspect it was pathology, not punctuality, that
> was
> the real issue here. Nonetheless, another time, you'll know, if you put
> yourself in a similar situation, to dot all the I's and cross all the T's
> until and unless expressly told differently.
>
> It takes more homework, but especially if you're after a longer-term
> commitment, it's wise to get the word on the street about a prospective
> employer before you ever commit. Talk to people in the department, if you
> can. Talk to vendors. Talk to ex-employees. Spend some hang time in the
> local coffee shop near the office -- or wherever employees or those who
> know
> them congregate. What kind of reputation do they have in the community?
> It's
> not bulletproof, but it can tell a great deal, and spare you a lot of
> grief.
>
> Jim
>
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