Re: Coworker who won't take no for an answer

["punit shrivastava" <punitshrivastava -at- gmail -dot- com>]

I agree with what Lauren suggested.

Such sick coworkers exist becuase most of the time the sufferrer never
reports to the HR and Management. Anyways it is not a feasible idea to work
in such a deteriorating environment, so better you report to the concerned
authorities. The result will be always better for your future.

You might get a confidence booster that can make things easier for you in
general in future.

All the best
Punit



On 7/30/08, Lauren <lauren -at- writeco -dot- net> wrote:
>
> Patricia,
>
> You need to be strong.  This is close to sexual harassment, but it is still
> harassment, like when he called your mothering skills into question.  What
> you are facing is a hostile work environment.
>
> http://www.fcc.gov/owd/understanding-harassment.html
>
> This is not legal advice, but here is my personal impression.  You need to
> decide if you want to pursue this as a hostile work environment situation.
> If you do, then you need to *affirmatively* tell your co-worker to stop the
> behavior because he is causing a hostile work environment.  You should send
> a follow-up email so that you have a dated paper trail.  If he approaches
> you in a non-work-related way again, at all, then discuss the matter with
> his supervisor *and* with Human Resources.  Also, follow-up this up with
> email to the involved parties.  The matter will stop then.
>
> HR does need to be aware of this matter once it is escalated sufficiently,
> otherwise you will risk not covering yourself if a manager decides that one
> of you needs to be removed from the situation with a job change or
> termination.  Anything that HR is not notified about did not happen and
> anything you say after the company takes an action that you are not happy
> with will have no effect because if it was important, then you would have
> said something before the negative action against you occurred.
>
> Lauren
>
>
>
> > From: Patricia A
>
> > I find myself in a precarious situation and wondered if you
> > might advise
> > me...
>
> > At the risk of sounding full of myself, it is
> > embarrassingly obvious to me and to all of my cubicle
> > neighbors that he
> > has a crush.
>
> > I've tried the obvious solutions - excusing myself, running off to
> > meetings, picking up the telephone. I was even honest and told him
> > outright my sons think his hobby is pretty lame. This was yesterday,
> > after the tenth time he brought up the subject. He all but printed out
> > resumes for the four people who own the store, explaining
> > that a public
> > defender, a published author, a former cop and a computer
> > programmer are
> > not nerds.
>
>
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