RE: Coworker who won't take no for an answer

[Fred Ridder <docudoc -at- hotmail -dot- com>]

The only suggestion I'd make in addition to Bill's comment is to use 
only the first paragraph of Dana's script on the next occasion. There's 
always a possibility that previous demurrals may have been ambiguous 
in some way, so start with one direct, clear, unambiguous "drop it". 
If the offending person gets the point of the direct "no" and leaves 
you alone, you've accomplished the goal without having to make 
any kind of threat.
 
If he doesn't get the point of the direct "no", you've only had to 
endure one more instance of his intrusion before you use both of
Dana's paragraphs and start the escalation process with an
explicit warning. 
 
-Fred Ridder
 
> Anyone still confused should print this e-mail out for future> reference. Well said, Dana.> > On Wed, Jul 30, 2008 at 11:48 AM, Dana Worley <dana -at- campbellsci -dot- com> wrote:> > > The next time he brings it up, say...> >> > "Look. We have had this discussion before. I have said No. I am not> > interested; my sons are not interested."> >> > "Your continued requests have made me uncomfortable. I feel I am being> > harassed. Please stop this harassment or I will be forced to take this issue> > to management. I do not want to damage our working relationship, but if you> > continue to press this issue I will take whatever actions are necessary to> > stop it myself."> >> > In no way would I EVER tell him "he's such a sweetheart". If he truly has a> > crush and is clueless, this will only encourage his attention. And if he's the> > vindictive sort, he could twist your words around and you might be the one to> > end up on the wrong side of a harassment suit.> >> > As others have said, direct, clear communication is required.
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